About Renee Miller 

Who we are grows and changes based on the encounters and experiences that we are exposed to in our life.  It is easy enough to give the factual biographical data of Renee Miller.  In fact, if that is what you are particularly interested in, you will find that information at the bottom of the page.  What is more difficult, and absolutely more crucial, is who Renee Miller is as a human being.  That is, what her excitement and dreams are,  how she has become who she is now, how she reacts and responds to difficulty and tragedy in life, where her strengths lie, what areas still need exploration, what she will live for and what is so important she will die for it.  It is important to know where her energy is most palpable and when it is at its lowest ebb, what fuels it, what squanders it.  In thus knowing the person more fully, there is more opportunity to evaluate if this is the person you are in need of finding.

The five core values that Renee Miller lives by provide a context for that deeper understanding of her as a human being. These core principles are used to guide her actions and decisions.  They have been developed over a period of years based on the circumstances and turns that life has taken and her responses to those circumstances.  It’s not only through success that she has formed her life principles. They have been molded also out of the failures and chaos that have sometimes been her greatest challenge and the seed of her greatest learning.  These values are what is left of her, once all that is superficial is scraped away. 

Love no matter what the cost.  Renee believes in the power and truth of unconditional love and attempts to be faithful to that love in all human relationships.  This unconditional love was learned from her by her mother, who loved even when it cost her dearly.  She does not see unconditional love as love without boundaries, but when a situation gives her the opportunity to turn away from someone or turn toward them with love, she will choose love.

Attribute the highest motive to people’s behavior.  Renee believes that it is important to give people latitude in their behavior. As an imperfect human being herself, she knows that she cannot fully understand all the reasons that cause a person to act in a particular manner.  In order to keep from shutting people out, she looks for the best motive for their actions.

Walk with God.  Renee believes that even when she feels doubt or uncertainty or has lost belief in God, she needs to stay connected to what is Other than herself.  In the best of times, faith is full and real, but when faith has waned, she wants to stay attached as if she still had faith.  When she stays in relationship with God, even when it seems foolhardy, there is the opportunity to see the power and truth of God once again.

Don’t go to an office.  Renee believes that her particular style of interaction with people is limited in an institutional setting.  She has found that her own energy and passion are compromised when she is confined to an environment that is not healthy for her.  In order to be the best she can be for others, it is crucial that she be able to engage with others in alternative and creative ways.

Live from the true self, rather than being full of the self.  Renee believes that the ‘self’ is constantly evolving throughout life.  Staying in touch with her true self allows her to face herself squarely – without rationalization or justification.  When she hides from or avoids her true self, she finds that her ego takes over and further separates her from herself and others.

Renee doesn’t claim to follow these rules with perfection, but with intentionality.  She accepts that she is human and will fail to follow her own principles at times.  Still, they are the touchstones for how she wants to see herself. They are how she understands her deeper self, and they are the measurements she returns to when she is relating with others in teaching, coaching, writing, or spiritual direction.